DADT, don’t let the door slap you flirtily, leering-at-you-in-the-showers-ingly, staring at your ass junkingly on your way out into the murky, foggy, backward side of the arc of time.

To all you conservatives who think the end of the world is coming, well, it is. Your bibles have told you so. Just not over this.

Your god made me gay, just like he made you straight. But my god isn’t. No, that wasn’t a premorse sentence. I just don’t have one. I am who am and I am gay.

Don’t like it? I’m sorry about that, but I don’t dislike you for your heterosexuality. That would be ridiculous and absurd.

I don’t expect all gay service members to come out over this ruling, but now if they do come out, or by virtue of situation (show up at a social gathering with a same-sex partner, or wear a wedding ring and are asked about it, or—heaven forfend—get legally married) are found out by their piers to be gay, they won’t be discharged from the military for it.

Nor can they continue to be blackmailed by their C.O.s for being secretly gay, as they are now in many, many cases.

In other words, the military can return to being honorable, can return to not encouraging its members to be deceitful or put them in a position that might make them a security risk.

Yay for honesty and honor!

And you can thank the gays and the simple act of discovering that being who you are is the best of all possible options for restoring the military to its own core values.

And there’s no escaping that conclusion.

My Letter to Senator Jim Webb

Senator Webb:

I find your reasoning for voting against the DADT Repeal to be disingenuous at best and cowardly at worst.

You believe it’s appropriate to leave it up to current active heterosexual military personnel and their families to impress their own prejudices upon the decision-making process of the United States Military? That the bigotry of one group of people should in any way hold sway over the future careers, well-being and very lives of other human beings?

You’re making the same arguments that Rand Paul has been making these last couple of weeks.

Why is it that that occasionally we are treated to you standing tall on television and talking up the value of honor, duty and respecting the chain of command and now, frankly, you completely reverse yourself and turn into the Today’s Biggest Hypocrite and hand off the Big Decision to the foot soldiers—LITERALLY!—when it comes to whether bigotry should be allowed to persist in the US Military?

Are our soldiers so fragile, Sir?

Did not President Harry Truman go through these same trials, overcome these same obstacles, same arguments with respect to desegregation?

And why did he do it?

In the face of being accused of performing social experiments with the US Military, of playing games with unit cohesion and weakening troop strength, he did it because this country must remain something worth defending.

Are we a country of freedom and fairness, Sir? Or are our troops out there continuing to defend a country that’s perfectly content to punish those of its own defenders because of nothing but indefensible bigotry?

How much better would the never-declared war in Iraq have gone had we not short-sightedly, STUPIDLY, dishonorably discharged language translators because they were gay?

I used to respect you.

You’ve lost my respect.

Were I a Virginian, you’d have lost far more, Sir: you’d have lost my vote.


Jeffrey Barbose